Monday, November 5, 2012

Definition of a Hopeless Romantic

I am a hopeless romantic.
What does that mean, to be a hopeless romantic?
This question was on my mind today when a dear friend asked me what my definition of a hopeless romantic is, after I told him that I most definitely am one. I decided to research online to answer in the moment, because I couldn't put my thoughts together. All of my thoughts, however, have been rolling around in my mind since then, and now I need to put them together in writing. So, Lee, this is for you! This is how I, personally, would define a hopeless romantic...
To be a hopeless romantic is to find yourself dreaming always of true love, whether you've found it or are still looking. To be a hopeless romantic is to believe in the joy of companionship and romance, passion and gentleness. Hopeless romantics will give all they have to the one they love. They love deeply, completely, entirely... and dangerously. They will hand their whole heart to whomever they love, and do so willingly and joyfully (if at times with a certain amount of fear). Hopeless romantics do not feel, in any way, hopeless; on the contrary a hopeless romantic has such immense hope that it is impossible for them to escape immense pain when their heart, so willingly offered, is returned in pieces.
What, then, becomes of a hopeless romantic once their heart has been broken, if they are so very apt to believe in true love? Hopeless romantics, though they suffer immense heartbreak, still believe in love. That is their very definition - to always believe in love. Whatever amount of time it takes any given individual to heal from heartbreak, if they are truly a hopeless romantic, they will find solace in their belief that they will, inevitably, find one whom they can love with all their heart, and who will love them in return. A hopeless romantic who does not currently have someone to call their own longs and aches for the joy and excitement and love found in romance. They are not, however, to be confused with one who is desperate. Hopeless romantics are not desperate, not in the least; they do, however, long to find one who can return their love so completely as they offer it.
Hopeless romantics hold dear to their hearts every little gesture of kindness and affection, every sweet and gentle communication of love. To a hopeless romantic, the arms of the one they love are home, and just to be held is heaven. A simple hug is as dear to them as anything. They adore the feeling of their love playing with their hair, holding their hand, whispering in their ear. The one they love can simply nudge their side, look in their eyes for an extra moment, or make them a heart out of a straw wrapper, and it will make their entire day. The brush of a hand on their cheek, or of lips on their forehead, rings true to them as a profession of love - because that is their own intention when they do such gentle things. Any small way they can communicate the love they feel for someone, they want to do. This is not to say that hopeless romantics do not also take immense pleasure in larger expressions of love, but the way they hold the little things dear is what sets them apart from other lovers. For who does not want to buy the one they love an extravagant gift? The distinction, then, is clearly that simple actions and interactions mean just as much to them as anything money can buy. As a definition I found online said (see link at the end of post), "they make romance into an art form."
Another piece of the online definition that I loved was the final paragraph: "Hopeless romantics are the idealists, the sentimental dreamers, the imaginative, and the fanciful. They give the world its once-upon-a-times and happily-ever-afters. Hopeless romantics may have their feet on the ground, but their souls fly somewhere over the rainbow."
And that last sentance, I think, is also profound (as cheesy as it may be). Not all hopeless romantics are open to the world about how hopelessly romantic they are. Many are level-headed individuals in most situations, and yet are inwardly (sometimes even secretly) completely and totally a hopeless romantic.
And that... that is me. I am a hopeless romantic.
Definition referenced: http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080305010701AAWFQtb

11 comments:

  1. Exactly! This is what I think and how I would define being a hopeless romantic! Well said and written. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and reflections.

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  2. Yep, this is definitely me. To a Tee as christen said. Sigh.

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  3. It makes my stomach churn with happiness! I always long for someone to share love with (I'm still in my teens so I'll probably have to wait a while lol) But I know good and well that I believe in love to the fullest and will always know it is there. I blame Disney for me being this way, however I don't regret it! Rock on fellow Romantics <3

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  5. SLICE is a 4-minute movie-musical about a girl who falls hopelessly in love with her pizza delivery guy.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?x-yt-ts=1421828030&x-yt-cl=84411374&v=c6dK3yG4V0k

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  6. This is definitely me...thank you for sharing your thoughts

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  8. So beautifully written. Count me in. Much love <3

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